Feng Shui Your Home for Love: 7 Steps

Heart in sand I had dabbled in Feng Shui, the Chinese theory of organizing your environment to benefit your life – for awhile. My house was Feng Shui’d (0% chance that is a real word), my office was Feng Shui’d, at times my clothes hanging out to dry have been Feng Shui’d.

It was when I returned from a trip to Borneo, where I had fallen in crazy love with David a wonderful guy from Catalonia when I paid extra special attention to it.

A year and a half  later we got married. Coincidence? The Chinese would say no.

Looking for love? Here are the only 6 things you need to know:

Feng Shui is based on the premise of everyone’s life has nine major components to it:

  • Wealth and Money
  • Reputation and Fame
  • Love and marriage
  • Family
  • Health
  • Children and Creativity
  • Skills and Knowledge
  • Career
  • Helpful People and Travel

Every area of your home, office, car, garage or any other life space represents one of these nine life areas. When, as the Chinese Feng Shui masters will teach you, your home is arranged to support these nine areas the arrangement can be quite beneficial to you.

Doing Feng Shui for love (and marriage if you are interested in such things) is free, will likely take less than an hour of your time (and perhaps only a few minutes) and I have never seen it not work. Never.

How to do it? Five super easy steps:

1.      Find your love corner

The Chinese have these nine life situations carefully laid out in what they call a Bagua Map (see below). The idea is that you are supposed to lay this map over a blueprint or sketch of your home to locate the exact areas but the beginner’s way to find the love and marriage area of your home is to:

a)      Go stand at the front door of your home and face the inside of your house
b)      Point your hand to the far, far right corner of the inside of your home
c)      Voila! That the love area you need to focus on.



2.      Clear (and clean) out your love corner

Now that you have located your love corner let’s get it working for you. Here is what you need to do:

a)      Remove all of the following from this area:

  • Any representations of people or things who are by themselves, alone or single in other words this is not the corner for the big photo of your best friend who is chronically single.
  • Anything that is symbolic of an old relationship. Make sure any ties from relationships of yesteryear are nowhere near this corner.
  • Anything in three’s (unless you are into that sort of thing)
  • Unwelcoming things such as prickly planets like cactus’ or objects such as knives or images or things that are anything but happy and welcoming.
  • Games – you don’t want your relationship to have games. Make sure there aren’t any in your corner
  • Definitely do not let this be your area for storage or dare I say, “baggage”? If you are storing stuff put it somewhere else or better yet, make money off of it and sell it.
  • Distractions should not be in this corner. This is not the place to set up the computer, the TV or anything else that distracts you from the attention of love.
  • Anything you do not use regularly, do not like or is considered unnecessary or clutter
  • Dead plants
  • Dirt and dust (make this area sparkle!)
  • Anything that reminds you of people, places, events or times you would prefer not to think about or remember
  • Garbage cans or bags
  • Anything broken or needing repair
  • Anything that has a negative connotation to love, relationships or marriage. This is definitely NOT the corner to store the random photos or gifts from past relationships.

b)      Once you have removed all of the love-icide give the love area of your house a good once over – clean, sweep, mop, wipe down, wash up – get it prepped for the next step towards amore!

3.      Now spruce up your corner with the Feng Shui symbols and colors of love

With the Feng Shui love-icide problems taken care of, now it is time to put the love symbols in your corner. To do so add any of the following:

  • Anything that are the colors of love i.e. red, pink and white (assuming it does not also fall in the category of what was listed above to remove i.e. do not put a red statue of a single woman or your wedding dress from the marriage that went kaput in this area.).
  • Symbols of love – In my most favorite Feng Shui book every Karen Rauch Carter suggests: “fireworks, animal print material, a bottle of champagne and two glasses, a bride and groom wedding cake decoration, two of anything such as statues, lovebirds, plants, lights or pillows” Carter also suggests, “a bowl of passion fruit or Hershey’s kisses.”
  • Mirrors and candles are great for this corner. You get extra credit for adding two that are white, red and/or pink.
  • Fresh flowers or of course, mistletoe
  • Anything soft, satiny, sexy. It is a great corner to store your undies and things.
  • Romantic sounds – this is the perfect corner for the grand piano or your guitar

It is important to note that these things do not actually need to be seen. For example, if you had red, pink or white paper or other things you could put them behind or under a table or shelf in this area.

4.      Make sure your are getting all the love leverage you can

Want to make sure you have given your house all the good love energy it can manage? Do the same thing for every room in your house, your office or cube at work, your garage and even your car. Just go to the main entrance of the room point your arm to the far right corner of it and get to work!

5.     Make sure your bedroom is one of equality and seeing double

One thing that always makes me nervous since my dabblings in Feng Shui is seeing a friend’s bedroom that does not have two identical bed side tables. An imbalance around the bed symbolizes an imbalance in the relationship. When David and I moved into our new house there was only one nightstand, so we moved it to the opposite wall so both sides of the bed would be equal (equally without nightstands). Also, make sure not to have things in “ones” in the bedroom either. No pictures of you or anyone else by yourself. Have only one picture above the bed? Put two.

6. Love corner tune-ups (super importante!)

Now that your Feng Shui is in alignment it is critical that this area is kept very clean, free of dust, dirt or mess and of course, free of clutter and of course don’t let any pics of the old flames sneek in there. Consider it the shrine of your love life – because it is.

Want more? Get my favorite Feng Shui book ever Move Your Stuff, Change Your Life by Karen Carter-Rauch. She explains Feng Shui and how to use it in all areas in your home in ridiculously simple and fun ways.

7. Get Feng Shui Help

Live in Colorado and looking for a Denver Feng Shui consultant? I can help you declutter and/or Feng Shui your home or office for your dream job, more wealth, true love, great health, children, family, creativity and more. I Feng Shui’d my house and office for love – two years later I was married to the best and most wonderful man I have ever met. Contact me.

8 thoughts on “Feng Shui Your Home for Love: 7 Steps

  1. Help! I am temporarily living with my parents until I find a new home. I share my bedroom with my 12 year old son and the room is so cluttered by my mother’s stuff. Since I moved in, my relationship is still going but at a stand still. Desperate to find a place as soon as possible. What can I do in the meantime? Any advice is appreciated

    • Hi there
      I am so sorry to hear that. Any chance you could convince mom to get rid of some stuff or move it out of the room? I am sure you have already thought of that 🙂 In lieu of that, just put everything you can in twos especially in the back right corner. 🙂 Put pictures of you and your honey around the room and put things that are red and pink in this corner as well. Then take a look at your stuff. What clutter are you dragging around? Start getting rid of everything that couldn’t be classified as either something you love dearly or use yearly. Getting rid of the old helps bring in the new – like a new place to live and maybe it will inspire your mom to get rid of things too!

  2. The far right area of my home is the laundry. What do I do? I also store things there such as cleaning products.

    • Hi there – thanks for your question. First thing to do is make sure the area is absolutely immaculate, free of clutter, free of anything you don’t love or use regularly. Then you can get creative, put things in twos – hell, put the laundry soap bottles in groups of twos. Is there room on the walls to hang things? Hang a picture(s) of couples you admire, of two animals together, two anything together? Then think about colors – how can you add pinks and reds? Some people even put pint or red paper behind something so it can’t be seen.

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